Bullying

Darkchaosknight · Oct 31, 2013

I've seen it so many times, people on mc-war, mc-warz, and some of our other servers have been bullied. Its happened like it or not:
https://www.brawl.com/threads/5088/
https://www.brawl.com/threads/4551/
https://www.brawl.com/threads/930/
https://www.brawl.com/threads/3459/
https://www.brawl.com/threads/5041/#post-68476
https://www.brawl.com/threads/5064/
https://www.brawl.com/threads/5005/
https://www.brawl.com/threads/4852/

and there are many more.

As a moderator, I try to prevent the continuation of these threats but I cannot completely do it in the end. Recently, I was thinking about the topic and did a basic google search and game upon a website.

http://tothisdayproject.com/the_poem.html

The main video is based on the poem:

To This Day
When I was a kid
I used to think that pork chops and karate chops
were the same thing
I thought they were both pork chops
and because my grandmother thought it was cute
and because they were my favourite
she let me keep doing it

not really a big deal

one day
before I realized fat kids are not designed to climb trees
I fell out of a tree
and bruised the right side of my body

I didn’t want to tell my grandmother about it
because I was afraid I’d get in trouble
for playing somewhere that I shouldn’t have been

a few days later the gym teacher noticed the bruise
and I got sent to the principal’s office
from there I was sent to another small room
with a really nice lady
who asked me all kinds of questions
about my life at home

I saw no reason to lie
as far as I was concerned
life was pretty good
I told her “whenever I’m sad
my grandmother gives me karate chops”

this led to a full scale investigation
and I was removed from the house for three days
until they finally decided to ask how I got the bruises

news of this silly little story quickly spread through the school
and I earned my first nickname

pork chop

to this day
I hate pork chops

I’m not the only kid
who grew up this way
surrounded by people who used to say
that rhyme about sticks and stones
as if broken bones
hurt more than the names we got called
and we got called them all
so we grew up believing no one
would ever fall in love with us
that we’d be lonely forever
that we’d never meet someone
to make us feel like the sun
was something they built for us
in their tool shed
so broken heart strings bled the blues
as we tried to empty ourselves
so we would feel nothing
don’t tell me that hurts less than a broken bone
that an ingrown life
is something surgeons can cut away
that there’s no way for it to metastasize

it does

she was eight years old
our first day of grade three
when she got called ugly
we both got moved to the back of the class
so we would stop get bombarded by spit balls
but the school halls were a battleground
where we found ourselves outnumbered day after wretched day
we used to stay inside for recess
because outside was worse
outside we’d have to rehearse running away
or learn to stay still like statues giving no clues that we were there
in grade five they taped a sign to her desk
that read beware of dog

to this day
despite a loving husband
she doesn’t think she’s beautiful
because of a birthmark
that takes up a little less than half of her face
kids used to say she looks like a wrong answer
that someone tried to erase
but couldn’t quite get the job done
and they’ll never understand
that she’s raising two kids
whose definition of beauty
begins with the word mom
because they see her heart
before they see her skin
that she’s only ever always been amazing

he
was a broken branch
grafted onto a different family tree
adopted
but not because his parents opted for a different destiny
he was three when he became a mixed drink
of one part left alone
and two parts tragedy
started therapy in 8th grade
had a personality made up of tests and pills
lived like the uphills were mountains
and the downhills were cliffs
four fifths suicidal
a tidal wave of anti depressants
and an adolescence of being called popper
one part because of the pills
and ninety nine parts because of the cruelty
he tried to kill himself in grade ten
when a kid who still had his mom and dad
had the audacity to tell him “get over it” as if depression
is something that can be remedied
by any of the contents found in a first aid kit

to this day
he is a stick on TNT lit from both ends
could describe to you in detail the way the sky bends
in the moments before it’s about to fall
and despite an army of friends
who all call him an inspiration
he remains a conversation piece between people
who can’t understand
sometimes becoming drug free
has less to do with addiction
and more to do with sanity

we weren’t the only kids who grew up this way
to this day
kids are still being called names
the classics were
hey stupid
hey spaz
seems like each school has an arsenal of names
getting updated every year
and if a kid breaks in a school
and no one around chooses to hear
do they make a sound?
are they just the background noise
of a soundtrack stuck on repeat
when people say things like
kids can be cruel?
every school was a big top circus tent
and the pecking order went
from acrobats to lion tamers
from clowns to carnies
all of these were miles ahead of who we were
we were freaks
lobster claw boys and bearded ladies
oddities
juggling depression and loneliness playing solitaire spin the bottle
trying to kiss the wounded parts of ourselves and heal
but at night
while the others slept
we kept walking the tightrope
it was practice
and yeah
some of us fell

but I want to tell them
that all of this ****
is just debris
leftover when we finally decide to smash all the things we thought
we used to be
and if you can’t see anything beautiful about yourself
get a better mirror
look a little closer
stare a little longer
because there’s something inside you
that made you keep trying
despite everyone who told you to quit
you built a cast around your broken heart
and signed it yourself
you signed it
“they were wrong”
because maybe you didn’t belong to a group or a click
maybe they decided to pick you last for basketball or everything
maybe you used to bring bruises and broken teeth
to show and tell but never told
because how can you hold your ground
if everyone around you wants to bury you beneath it
you have to believe that they were wrong

they have to be wrong

why else would we still be here?
we grew up learning to cheer on the underdog
because we see ourselves in them
we stem from a root planted in the belief
that we are not what we were called we are not abandoned cars stalled out and sitting empty on a highway
and if in some way we are
don’t worry
we only got out to walk and get gas
we are graduating members from the class of
**** off we made it
not the faded echoes of voices crying out
names will never hurt me

of course
they did

but our lives will only ever always
continue to be
a balancing act
that has less to do with pain
and more to do with beauty.
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Hopefully this can truly show us some of the major effects of bullying. I feel people cursing and threats really can effect people mentally and emotionally, the worst part is it is on our servers. We represent our servers so please do not curse. If you are the one creating threats, just stop and leave the server before you do something morally wrong. If you see it happen, redirect the wrong doer here . It is important to know the true effects of bullying on someone as just one name will change someones life forever and generally for the worse. By doing this, we can't end bullying but we can limit it. Just needed to get the word out :V

e621Warwick · Oct 31, 2013

My history teacher showed me that video a year ago...

BrawlerAce · Oct 31, 2013

An interesting story.
Sad, but interesting.
Unfortunately, cyberbullying can never be stopped, but I guess we can try and limit it....

Darkchaosknight · Oct 31, 2013

Tac42 said: ↑

My history teacher showed me that video a year ago...
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What did you think about it? I mean have you thought about it since?

BrawlerAce_ said: ↑

An interesting story.
Sad, but interesting.
Unfortunately, cyberbullying can never be stopped, but I guess we can try and limit it....
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Very sad and hopefully our community can find ways to limit bullying as much as possible.

Sonicluke2000 · Oct 31, 2013

"Sonic is a f@ggot and should be burned!" -Some random MVP that I killed on WarZ.
"OMFG LUKE STOP BEING A HO AND STOP HACKING OMFG" -Some random kid on Mc-War.
Me- "Awwww, I love you too."

e621Warwick · Oct 31, 2013

Darkchaosknight said: ↑

What did you think about it? I mean have you thought about it since?

Very sad and hopefully our community can find ways to limit bullying as much as possible.
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I forgot it within 2 days.
Bullying doesn't really affect me.
If someone insults me, it's probably because they have problems at home, or feel the need to insult someone else just to up their ego.

I also remember how annoying the "TO THIS DAY" crescendos were.

Darkchaosknight · Oct 31, 2013

Sonicluke2000 said: ↑

"Sonic is a f@ggot and should be burned!" -Some random MVP that I killed on WarZ.
"OMFG LUKE STOP BEING A HO AND STOP HACKING OMFG" -Some random kid on Mc-War.
Me- "Awwww, I love you too."
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What does this do with the main topic...

Tac42 said: ↑

I forgot it within 2 days.
Bullying doesn't really affect me.
If someone insults me, it's probably because they have problems at home, or feel the need to insult someone else just to up their ego.

I also remember how annoying the "TO THIS DAY" crescendos were.
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Maybe you should reflect as the bully. You have downed people, created cruel catigories on people called S.N.N. and have truly been cruel to others.

e621Warwick · Oct 31, 2013

Darkchaosknight said: ↑

What does this do with the main topic...

Maybe you should reflect as the bully. You have downed people, created cruel catigories on people called S.N.N. and have truly been cruel to others.
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I'm an asshole.
Yay.
Less competition for me.

Seriously though.
Bullying, IMO, is not a big deal.
I don't know why people go crazy over when they get bullied.
It's just a bunch of dip****s with nothing better to do.
Who cares about what other assholes think about you?

Darkchaosknight · Oct 31, 2013

Tac42 said: ↑

I'm an asshole.
Yay.
Less competition for me.
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Maybe its time to help others and fix your wrongs. Personally, you can be a really nice person if you put your mind to it. The reason someone bullies is because they do it to others. You can stop the cycle and end it now.

e621Warwick · Oct 31, 2013

Darkchaosknight said: ↑

Maybe its time to help others and fix your wrongs. Personally, you can be a really nice person if you put your mind to it. The reason someone bullies is because they do it to others. You can stop the cycle and end it now.
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Ha.
Ha.
No.

I don't understand why people just don't shrug bullies off.
Physical harassment is one thing, but verbal?
Who gives a **** about verbal?
Just ignore them.

Decayment · Oct 31, 2013

Darkchaosknight said: ↑

Maybe its time to help others and fix your wrongs. Personally, you can be a really nice person if you put your mind to it. The reason someone bullies is because they do it to others. You can stop the cycle and end it now.
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What the hell are you talking about. Bullying will not end.

Sonicluke2000 · Oct 31, 2013

Tac42 said: ↑

Ha.
Ha.
No.

I don't understand why people just don't shrug bullies off.
Physical harassment is one thing, but verbal?
Who gives a **** about verbal?
Just ignore them.
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Dark, I posted that to show how many flux I don't give about "bullies."
Edit- I forgot to type that I agree with this, Tac ._.
Foxderp.

Darkchaosknight · Oct 31, 2013

xJayJay103x said: ↑

What the hell are you talking about. Bullying will not end.
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You may not be able to end it, however you can limit it.

Tac42 said: ↑

Ha.
Ha.
No.

I don't understand why people just don't shrug bullies off.
Physical harassment is one thing, but verbal?
Who gives a **** about verbal?
Just ignore them.
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Some people don't know how. I highly doubt you even put the video or any of this into mind at all.

e621Warwick · Oct 31, 2013

Darkchaosknight said: ↑

You may not be able to end it, however you can limit it.

Some people don't know how. I highly doubt you even put the video or any of this into mind at all.
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I try.
I just don't see how people take it this seriously.
For ****'s sake, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
People need to learn that.

Mokolee · Oct 31, 2013

There are a lot of players that type insults towards me on Mc-war. I feed off of those insults.

Sonicluke2000 · Oct 31, 2013

Tac42 said: ↑

I try.
I just don't see how people take it this seriously.
For ****'s sake, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
People need to learn that.
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Actually, once, someone made a cardboard cutout of a word and threw it at me.
So.
I ended up beating him with it. T'was funny.

Decayment · Oct 31, 2013

Actually, I was bullied in my life a few times too.
One time was when a basketball hit me in the face and broke my glasses...
Then I found out I was the one who threw the basketball.

e621Warwick · Oct 31, 2013

xJayJay103x said: ↑

Actually, I was bullied in my life a few times too.
One time was when a basketball hit me in the face and broke my glasses...
Then I found out I was the one who threw the basketball.
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Darkchaosknight · Oct 31, 2013

Tac42 said: ↑

I try.
I just don't see how people take it this seriously.
For ****'s sake, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
People need to learn that.
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You just proved you didn't read it... Sticks n' stones quote is directly in it...

I’m not the only kid
who grew up this way
surrounded by people who used to say
that rhyme about sticks and stones
as if broken bones
hurt more than the names we got called
and we got called them all
so we grew up believing no one
would ever fall in love with us
that we’d be lonely forever
that we’d never meet someone
to make us feel like the sun
was something they built for us
in their tool shed
so broken heart strings bled the blues
as we tried to empty ourselves
so we would feel nothing
don’t tell me that hurts less than a broken bone
that an ingrown life
is something surgeons can cut away
that there’s no way for it to metastasize
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Tac42 said: ↑

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Proving my point you are the bully...

Sonicluke2000 · Oct 31, 2013

What? It's funny.
Once, I tripped in math, hit my book that was hanging over the edge of the table, which ended up smashing my foot, and I ended up with a nosebleed. I was laughing my ass off (Along with the rest of the class) For about 5 minutes. T'was hilarious.

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